Wednesday, July 15, 2009

One Year Ago!

The battle ends and a new Journey begins
July 15, 2008 Owen made his way home to Wyoming (at 6 and 1/2 months old) where everyone slept in their own bed, and the family room became Owen's room.
We had finally won the battle, paved the way and brought our baby home. We had been told there would be absolutely NO WAY to get a trach/vented baby home to where we live in rural Wyoming.
We had made hundreds of phone calls and sent dozens of emails and letters. Every response was a no, no response or a 'sorry, we just can't help you'. We were told we were too rural and too big of a liability. We were frustrated, sad, and confused because we knew Owen was supposed to get home.
We had those who told us "no and please don't call again". (There were people making calls for us and we were double calling. Serves them right for saying no!!) We were also told "we wouldn't touch that patient with a ten foot pole". All of this because of liability and the sue happy world. We reassured them all that we would sign away all liability due to distance. We had gotten past sad, we were getting angry by this time.
Then the light at the end of the tunnel got brighter, through many phone calls and emails we were finally in touch with the right people. I can't remember how we all got connected but I remember the call that gave me Sam's phone number. She is an angel in our midst, among others. I am not sure if it was Sam that got Donna involved but the two of them sure got wheels rolling. They were two of our biggest supporters, they were not going to take no for an answer and it turned out to be a huge blessing on our behalf. They both did whatever they needed to to reach our goal of getting Owen home, and they did not stop until he was home. (Sam stills makes phone calls when needed, we love you Sam.) Donna found a grant to pay for our housing in SLC and was just a great support. I could go on and on about these two women but I don't think I even have the words to describe what they really did. They were beyond amazing and when we wanted to just give up they told us we could do it and not to give up. When we hit another dead end it seems like they found one more way to try. We wouldn't be home in Wyoming if I had not followed the phone number trail and found Sam.
How home came to be~
Wyoming's Children's Special Health purchased all the equipment needed for Owen . Dr. Depalma agreed to be Owen's doctor, which later became another huge blessing. She is more than amazing and we love her. Best Home Health agreed to take Owen on as a patient, which was a huge missing link for so long. We had to have someone be willing to take care of the equipment, which is why we couldn't just purchase it. Thanks Janelle and Wendi!
There were so many involved in getting us home and we don't even know your names. Not a day goes by with out my heart being full of gratitude for all those who brought us home. Now we celebrate one year of being in our own home, together as a family should be.
Owen in the truck leaving SLC. Lenn turned around at the last light leaving SLC and asked me "Are you sure?" I will never forget the feelings of excitement, anxiety and just plain happiness that day. We were going home but we were going into unknown territory with a very special baby.

These two pictures were taken by two very special people. The top was taken in SLC by a lady who takes pictures for babies with an unknown future. The bottom was taken the end of May by Ashlie who took the time to come to our house and take some great pictures just to be nice.
You think the world is coming to a crazy end with nothing but bad happening and then you have a baby like Owen and good works come out of the wood work. We have met so many loving, kind and generous people since Owen. There are so many good people out there and I want to be like them.




We have made it a year, but we couldn't have done it with out all of you who have been there to help and support us. Thank you!




6 comments:

sjanney said...

Oh Gayle, thank you so much for this post... oh yeah, and for making me cray. :) Your family deserves a medal for your courage and your strength - you make me want to be the best mom I can be.

Thinking of you and your sweet family, always.
Sam

Nic and Ashley Haws said...

You guys are the most amazing family in the world. Owen is so blessed to have such a wonderful daddy and mommy who NEVER take their calling as parents lightly. You guys are such an inspiration to me.

Give sweet Owen a kiss for me.

Dezaree said...

Gayle,
I thought that I would comment on here, rather than face book. I am glad that we've gotten in contact with each other. Its been too long. I ask my mom all the time how your family is doing, and she tells me that she doesn't really know because she and your mom haven't kept in contact very well.

I just went through your blog to catch up on what's been going on with you. You're kids are adorable. I have to agree with the comment above that I really appreciate your post about what's been going on with you and your little Owen. He really is so blessed to have you for parents, and so blessed to have so many people be willing to make sure that he made it home where he belongs. It really puts things into perspective.

I guess that I could give you a brief (ya right) update on what's been going on with me. I went to SUU to school, met my husband in 2000, and then got married. After graduating from SUU we stayed in Cedar until 2005, and then Geoff went to law school at Arizona State University. So that meant we had to leave normal weather and brave the heat for 3 years. He graduated last year, and we have since moved back to Cedar, where he is now practicing law. He stays busy, and keeps me really busy since I am his paralegal. I also work at a chiropractors office as well. We're in the process of buying a house right now, and it's a pain in my behind! We don't have any children yet, but it's not for lack of trying. I have PCOS, and have been unable to get pregnant in the 8 1/2 years we've been trying. I am actually going to be putting a post on my blog about something that happened recently with that, so I won't bore you with it here. So, that's us in a nut shell.

I am so glad you have a blog, now I can keep track of you and your cute family. You are definitely in my prayers. Take care, and talk to you soon.

Leslie Garbanati said...

Gayle, Lenn and Family, It is amazing where we find blessings and gratitude in our lives. We want you to know what a blessing and strength you have been to us. I remember (too well) peeking in on Owen in the dang NICU and thinking what a special boy he was and what a handsome little man. I also remember getting in trouble for being snoopy-well worth it. Thanks for being strong for all of us and showing us the true light and love of Christ. It is not an easy job being parents, and you have taken on extra responsibilities..wow, just imagine the blessings, even though they are hard to see sometimes. Keep going strong. Give our love to Owen. Mason and Family

Anna Linnea said...

What a beautiful little family you have. Owen's eye lashes are amazing!

Kenzee Jo said...

Gayle...
I don't know if you remember me or not... I found your blogg on Dez's list. I'm Kenzee Ellsworth (now a Mullins). It's been awhile :] I live in Green River, WY. My husband is from here. I just would like to say that just reading about your little one has touched my heart...and just looking at his face. What a strong, precious little guy you have. I know to some extent of having a baby in a hospital for awhile. My son was born 5 weeks early with complications... and was at the Utah University Hospital for a month... I know that yearning for them to come home... and being scared at the same time... but it is amazing how Heavenly Father gives us that boost to get through these times. Life is precious, and your son is one special/amazing son of God... and how lucky is Owen to have you and your husband as parents-who are devoted and focused on what is best for their kids...and to have the Gospel in their lives... I hope things continue to get better for you and your family...